Ever noticed that the same men that hate dark skinned Black women, normally also have a problem with light skinned Black men & mixed men?
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This video was originally made in 2016. Sadly I wasn’t very good at that time at covering every topic or subject I needed to address all in one video. I also didn’t know that you HAVE to elaborate.
So I’ve edited this video slightly with a few annotations. I added a few things that I felt needed to be elaborated on. But I also want to elaborated a little further here too.
Dark skinned Black men are not my enemy. Dark skinned Black men are not dark skinned Black women’s enemy either. Sadly however though, there are a lot of men that happen to be dark skinned that have a big issue with dark skinned Black women and also seem to have a big problem with light skinned Black men or even mixed race men.
But not all.
Of course this is not all dark skinned Black men. But I am not going to minimise the severity of the hatred that has been spawned within our community by saying “not all”. So I will say what I normally say, and that is, “it’s too many and not enough”. What do I mean by that? Well, there are too many dark skinned Black men on social media airing their anti Black women views and not enough brothers standing up and defending Black women. There are too many dark skinned men in our community actively perpetuating colorism. Why do I say too many? Because the truth is, even one man attacking dark skinned Black women based on their complexion, is too many.
Colorism
At the time when I made this video I hadn’t truly understood the definition of colorism in it’s most rawest form. I believe many people are in the same place at the moment as I was back then, in regards to the true definition of colorism.
At the time I thought colorism was applicable to anyone that received hatred for the color of their skin from people within their same racial group.
However, after making this video, I started to do a lot more research into colorism. Within my research I decided to look at the dictionary’s definition of colorism.
So based on that definition I realized that as a light skinned man I cannot be a victim of colorism. Of course I can be a victim of being hated on based on my complexion, features and a plethora of other things. But this is not colorism. Is there a word for when a light skinned person experiences hatred or abuse based on their phenotype? Probably, or maybe not, but I don’t want to be the person that coins the term. We have enough terms to label and describe our condition as Black people. All of which to me are simply symptoms of a bigger root cause. White supremacy and anti Blackness.
Are light skinned men dark skinned Black women’s allies?
Sadly I don’t think I can say the answer is yes. Although dark skinned women and light skinned men happen to receive hate from the same type of men. There are of course instances when light skinned men will themselves attack dark skinned women and perpetuate colorism. The sickness that is colorism is ever present in all facets of our lives.
I can never compare any of the things that I have gone through with anything that dark skinned Black women have gone through or their experiences, and I wouldn’t want to do that.
I would never want to derail the important topic of colorism and how it affects Black women by implying that light skinned Black men know exactly what Black women are going through. We don’t. There may be similarities, but it’s not the same.
This video was expressing my experience as a light skinned Black man trying to navigate through the Black community and my treatment from men that had issues with me based on my complexion. It just so happened to be that the men that had issues with my skin tone, were dark skinned Black men.
Soon I will upload another video breaking down the psychological affects of colorism, the true definition and how colorism pertains to dark skinned Black men. But in the mean time please check out my colorism video playlist.
First off, Umar has some serious issues. Now that we got that out the way lol, I wanna say that before becoming familiar with Angel’s content I really wasn’t even aware of light-skinned men’s tribulations. Based on my personal experiences I thought that all light-skinned people benefited from their privilege. Dark-skinned people were targeted more by bullies to verbally abuse. However, I do remember light-skinned girls being physically attacked because maybe a dark or brown-skinned girl’s boyfriend was showing them attention. Sometimes they’d be attacked for no reason at all other than how black boys would put them on a pedestal. Darker girls would spread rumors about them and even ostracize them due to jealousy. As a darker girl, I would never participate in the bully’s attempt at hurting these girls. I was raised to embrace all black people regardless of skin tone. I will admit that I had some kind of hangup on praising light-skinned boys because I was ignorant of the fact that they didn’t have it better than dark-skinned boys. I just assumed that because light-skinned boys got female’s attention all the time that they didn’t need any more praise from me. Plus, I called myself uplifting darker men because no one else was doing it around me. It was like acknowledging that their beauty was overlooked, which helped me to see my own. At one time I was accused of liking only light-skinned boys by brown or dark boys because maybe one or two light-skinned guys were showing me attention. In retrospect, they knew that would bother me so they used it to manipulate the situation. Bunch of hypocrites if you ask me. Nowadays I could care less what someone might think of me for loving ALL shades of black because I took my power back. Now that I’m more aware, I can actually help heal the men in our community even better by coming from a place of understanding and compassion. I have to point out that a big reason it’s taken this long for me is because men typically feel as though they have to hide their pain instead of vocalizing it. A lot of that has to do with people’s negative responses to anyone who’s courageous enough to share their struggle with the world. I hope other black boys and men will be encouraged to do that now and in the near future.
Oh Angel, I hear you but I don’t think all dark skinned ppl feel that way…I am a Canadian melanin rich woman and I think this issue is mostly related to African Americans. In my family we have every shade of melanin ….. I am dark rich chocolate and I love all shades of my men. I find African Americans are so much into colourism. Oh one thing I wish to correct you on: pussys are not weak… if anyone calls you a pussy, pls know it’s a compliment. If they call you a dick, then you know you’re weak and that’s when you need to fight. Peace, love and coconut oil sweetheart.🇨🇦💕🙏🏿
Hi Hazel
Thank you for your comment I found it interesting.
What I found most interesting was your statement: “I find African-Americans are so much into colorism.”
Can you elaborate on that statement ❓
And who else besides Candians and African-Americans did you use in your comparison ❓
Thank you
I agree with Hazel. I’m also Canadian (first generation African immigrant) and from my experience, colourism isn’t as much of an issue amongst black people in Canada as it is with African Americans. I was bullied for being African when I was in elementary school, but I didn’t see black people bullying other black people because of their skin tone. When I did see light-skinned girls being put on a pedestal, it was usually being done by dark-skinned girls. The black boys who liked light skin usually went straight for nonblack girls, but I didn’t see them bullying dark skinned girls or light skinned boys. As for Africans, colourist people in Africa place both light-skin women and men on a pedestal, but they don’t really attach negative attributes to dark skin. It’s more of a trend, similar to how white people treat tanned skin, than anything else.
I only realized how big colourism was as an issue amongst black people when I went online and started interacting with African Americans. I don’t know anything about school yard dynamics in American schools, but the ones that I see being the most colourist are definitely dark skinned black men towards dark skinned women and light skinned men (I get a jealousy vibe from them when it comes to their treatment of light skinned men). I’ve also seen light skinned women attacking dark skinned women and vice versa. The only ones that I see not really engaging in this mess are light skinned men, with the exception of Chris Brown, but he’s got all types of issues.
The Canadian black population is much smaller than the American black population and we have a lot of ethnic differences between us (most black people here are Caribbean, followed by Africans), so we don’t really have a close community. This might be why colourism is less of an issue here.
This is so true. I was just telling one of my dark skin guy friends that darkskin Black men specifically give lightskin women the “Black card” way more frequent than light skin Black men. Then they have mixed kids and feel validated – the whole thing is messed up
We’ve got a lot of light skin brothers in Africa that don’t have any lineage with white people. I’m light-skinned, both parents Africans but I’ve never had to deal with this. It is really funny to hear this because all black people face oppression every day. For those dark-skinned brothers frustrating the lives of light-skinned ones amounts to stupidity and they need some education. Mr Angel, you just have to put up with this because some persons in our community don’t want to educate themselves and therefore will never learn. This is the reasons these elements are tools that are used to destroy the Black communities all over the world.
It’s really sad to see how we treat one anther so badly, I’m an 18 year old dark skinned brother and at the church I go to there are light skin brothers and sisters and I don’t mistreat them nor mixed ones. In my eyes we are one regardless of shade, because we all came from Africa, if Malcom x, Martin Luther King, and Bob Marley were alive they would be lossing thier minds of how we are divided but complain of how whites kill us. We need to reeducate our community and clean up our acts before we talk about unity. God bless.
Our community is fucked up when it comes to this. They value whiteness. It is looked at as a feminine feature. They love it on the women and hate it on the men. Enough is enough
It’s called self hatred. Some dark skinned men feel inferior which is why these same men don’t like dark skinned women. When I was young I was told once by a dark skinned black guy I was pretty but to dark and he wanted light skin Kid’s. It has nothing to do with you it’s their self hate. I’m sorry you went through that and still have too. Yes, we are fighting the same battle from the same type people. I’m thankful I have parents who drilled in me and my siblings that black is beautiful in every shade. And I drilled that in my children and now in my grandchildren. Keep your head up amazing black man!
It’s interesting because I never experienced purism growing up until my junior year of High School. My friends and I at the lunch table and I had 2 friends who were darker then me and one of them said that they were both and another dark skinned friend of mines were the only black kids at the lunch table. There was this indigenous kid who said “what about Charlie? Isn’t he black to?” One of the dark skinned kids said well no he’s not black. I replied and said “yeah I am” then they responded back saying “no ur not, when people look at you no one is gonna think ur black” and then one of the kids started pointing at all the dark skinned kids and said “those people are black. You are just a light-skinned hispanic.” To be honest I look back to that day and find that a ridiculous argument because yes I am Hispanic but that’s not my race, that’s my cultural background. My father is a black man who was born in the Dominican Republic and my mother is a tri-racial woman (black, white, and Native American). Black is my race and my culture is hispanic and if I’m not supposed to identify as being black then most of our famous black icons who we look up to have no right to do that either, Malcom X, Huey P Newton, Angela Davis, Barack Obama, I can keep going. I found it even hilarious how these kids had the audacity to tell me “I’m not black enough” just because I’m light skinned, because I’m mixed, and because I’m hispanic, one of the other black kids were brown skinned, and was biracial! His father is white and his mother is black and the other black kid was dark skinned, yeah but he has a younger brother who is light skinned. Honestly I just found it ridiculous and I’m glad that you made this video because being light-skin is not all sunshine and rainbows like everybody thinks it is. I’m not seen as black enough, I’ve dealt with dark skinned kids testing my masculinity, I’m disliked by my own people and on top of that I also deal with racist white folks. I love how in our community (and I’m not speaking about all black people) but how one moment everyone is about black unity next moment theres this team lightskin vs team darkskin bs. You see darkskins bashing light skins and light skins bashing dark skins vice versa. Lightskin, brown skin, dark skin, We are all black people!
I have had too deal with stuff being light skinned mixed. Been made fun of for talking white. Or being called barely black. Or being called soft high yellow. It’s not easy being a lightskin guy. But I still would not change being a lightskin guy still.