Dear Chris Brown & other colorist, texturist & featurist men – Stop using the word preference to hide your hatred, discrimination and micro-aggressions.
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In July 2019 Chris Brown received some backlash for his “nice hair” lyrics on his song “Need A Stack” featuring Joyner Lucas & Lil wayne on his album Called Indigo. Some people ran to Chris Brown’s defence and said “Hey leave him alone. It’s just his preference. He’s allowed to have a preference”.
Chris Brown seems unbothered despite fans coming from him on social media for texturist song lyrics.
In 2019 Chris Brown found him self in hot water for some lyrics from his track “Need a Stack” featuring Lil Wayne and Joyner Lucas. Chris Brown raps, “Diggin’ it, then I’m lickin’ all on that p****, put it right there/Only wanna f*** the Black b****es with the nice hair.”
Many think Chris Brown seems to be trying to downplay or justify his comments; which has led people on social media to ask the question “What IS good hair?”. The topic of “good hair”, colorism and texturism within the Black community, has long been a conversation with no end in sight. For those unaware, texturism refers to a prejudice towards women with a more tightly curled hair texture. People who are referred to as “texturist” are also typically grouped as anti-Black as well.
Is It Offensive?
Some people may not be offended by the “nice hair” phrase. I read comments from women stating that he was only talking about well kept hair, and he’s not talking about all Black women. Another problem within these lyrics is “Black b**ches”.
If you were to remove the word “Black” from the lyrics quoted above, the statement becomes less specific, it becomes broad. He could have been talking about all women. But since he added the prefix “Black”, it lets you know he was addressing Black women. Most men like Chris Brown, especially in the music industry have made it very clear they have very little respect for Black women. Referring to Black women as “b**ches” and also stating “Black b**ches” adds extra venom to the lyrics.
By addressing Black Women specifically, it is implied that other groups of women are fine by him but Black Women get his appreciation ONLY under a certain condition. By isolating Black Women he also implies that in his opinion, they are the only Women that have “bad hair”.
What Exactly Is “Nice Hair”?
One does not need to be a part of the Black Community to know what people consider to be “nice hair” in relation to women of African descent.
Nice hair (usually called “good hair”), typically refers to loose curly hair or basically anything within the range of straight hair to type three hair. There’s a long history behind why this ideology runs deep within the minds of Black people. Loose curly hair is commonly associated with being mixed. During slavery, that was a commodity.
Why Are We Still Talking About This?
If this happened in 2019, then why are we still talking about this? After all, this is no longer a trending topic. That’s the problem. We only ever seem to discuss certain topics when they’re trending. But these are topics that should be discussed until it’s no longer an issue. It also requires solutions, not just simply addressing it, being angry and then moving on. Otherwise we will be having these same issues and discussions for another 400 years plus.
Short Term Memory
Men like Chris Brown that have consistently shown themselves to not care about Black women are always “canceled”, but their cancellation is only temporary. We seem to have short term memories.
One minute we’re absolutely offended, then a few months later that same artist brings out a “poppin” track and all of a sudden we forget all of their past indiscretions.
We need to be consistent. As consistent as their unacceptable behaviors and attitudes. We need to send out a strong message that says if you violate or disrespect Black women then you will be completely ostracised from the Black community. This doesn’t just stop with Black women, it’s in regards to all Black people. Men, women and children. There is no point in having outrage over things like colorism, texturism, featurism, racism or any form of prejudice or micro-aggressions if we’re going to simply forget about it a few months later. Be consistent. Stand firm. Have pride.
Am I overreacting? Is it simply a preference? Should we leave this men alone to have a preference?
The new scapegoat for colorist Black Men seems to be the word “preference”.
It’s usually the first word people reach for when defending negative sentiments expressed by Black Men with a large audience. The thing is though, the word “preference” is only used to justify demeaning comments about the appearance of Black Women.
“The fact that you like something or someone more than another thing or person”… As you can see a preference means you can like two things, but you may like the other thing slightly more than another. But you still like both things. Check out this video to find out exactly what a preference is and what a preference isn’t.
I added the definition of preference, just in case anyone was confused. Now that you know what a preference is, here’s what it is NOT:
A preference is not something that diminishes the worth of the unwanted option.
Yes, “unwanted”, because Black Men never say that they like white, or racially ambiguous women more than Black women. Instead, they say they don’t like Black women at all, and then try to brush off by saying, “Hey it’s just my preference”.
If Black Women aren’t on your roster, refrain from speaking about them. It really is that simple.